Everyone is a unique half arc in this world, looking for another half arc that fits perfectly.
As the saying goes, "You can't burn a stick at both ends." It is said that introversion is good, and extroversion is good, and no one can have both. There are some introverted people among the stars, but they still have love and live happily. Leung Chiu-wai and his daughter-in-law Carina Lau, Leung is introverted, Liu is extroverted, Carina Lau said in the program, she asked a few friends at home to play mahjong, his husband Leung Chiu-wai himself upstairs, do not participate in, do not oppose.
Introverts don't need to change their personality. As the saying goes, "A leopard never changes its spots." Because changing yourself means self-denial, self-deprecation, going back to zero and starting over. It's not easy for people like you and me.
Introverts don't need to fit in. Catering to others is very tiring things, more importantly, you will lose yourself, and feel no happiness, the gain is not worth the loss. I have a cousin who is a quiet, dreamy, honest and shy person. His girlfriend was satisfied with him in every way, even if he said little, my cousin also tried to create a topic, after a while, too tired, he gave up. And they're not really happy together. They broke up in the end.
Introverts just need to find people who appreciate, like, and accept themselves. This search process, time is long and short, don't give up. Or my cousin, he broke up, found a new girlfriend, is a new colleague of their work. We all asked his girlfriend, what do you like about him? He doesn't talk much, either. His girlfriend's answer surprised us. She said, just started into the time, noticed that he does not like to talk, the party, he is always the silent smile of the one, I began to have a little good impression on him, because I hate the most endless people, talk too much, no nutrition, I am tired of people like that. Later, because I just came here, I needed to ask him questions, and he would explain to me very patiently and in detail, and not say a word of nonsense. I think he's so cool, so masculine. I fell in love with him. And my cousin and his girlfriend are getting married this year. So, you don't need to change your introversion at all, you just need to find a partner who likes and accepts your introversion. Notice, I said find, not wait. Waiting is too passive. Be the main attack, the active search.
Introverts can turn so-called "weaknesses" into "strengths." An introvert may not be a fluent talker, but he or she is a perfect listener. Like rock candy in chamomile tea, though silent, but very delicious.
The last paragraph, for introverted silent friends. When I was young, my grandfather was a carpenter, and I used to see him put the tenon ends of two sticks together, exactly the same, which made me think it was amazing that I could put them together without nails. If your mortise pattern does not match, you should look for one that does, rather than modifying your own mortise pattern.